Mindfulness for Parents: Tips to Practice Self-Care

Understanding the biology behind self-care helps us understand why self-care works and how to feel better. There are hormones and neurotransmitters commonly referred to as “happiness chemicals” in our bodies that help us feel better and manage stress better. These “happiness chemicals” are often discussed as falling into four categories, and certain self-care activities can engage these chemicals. Now, of course, there is likely some overlap between activities and how they impact our happiness chemicals, but it’s an important illustration of understanding how certain activities can help you address stress and your needs.

What hormones can impact self-care and how we feel? 

Oxytocin

Oxytocin is known as “the love hormone.” You may have connection needs. When we receive love and connection, this increases oxytocin in our body, increasing feelings of comfort and happiness. To engage oxytocin, you could try the following self-care activities:

• Play with a pet
• Interact with your child
• Hold hands
• Hug your family
• Give compliments

Serotonin

Serotonin is known as the “mood stabilizer.” You might need to stabilize your mood, and there are certain actions we can take to boost our mood:

• Meditation, mindfulness or relaxation strategies
• Purposefully unplug and be in the moment during an activity that you enjoy by disconnecting from your phone.
• Attune to your self-talk, as you would do for a friend. Challenge and replace negative and unhelpful thoughts causing you stress into more balanced, accepting and hopeful thoughts.
• Running
• Safe sun exposure
• Walk in nature
• Swimming
• Cycling

Endorphins

Endorphins are known as the “pain killer.” You might need to reduce pain. We can increase endorphins to help bring some relief to common aches and pains by engaging in the following activities:

• Laughter exercise
• Essential oils
• Watch a comedy
• Eating dark chocolate
• Exercise

Dopamine

Dopamine is known as “the reward chemical.” When you need to reward yourself, you can do the following activities:

• Completing a task
• Eating food
• Celebrating little wins
• Positive affirmations

Below, you'll find a guided meditation on progressive muscle relaxation: